When someone accuses you of being selfish…could it simply be because you are not doing what they want you to and when they want you to? If that’s truly their motivation, then doesn’t that make them the selfish person instead of you?? Absolutely!!
There is nothing that says you must put their wants and needs above your own. And, under no circumstances should you allow them to make you feel guilty. They are only trying to manipulate you into doing what they want.
We should NEVER feel guilty, for saying NO! That is our right. We are under no obligation to anyone other than ourselves.